i've heard it said that guys take advantage of girls who they know have been treated poorly in the past--meaning they end up treating the girl poorly as well. for example, if a girl expresses she was abused in a former relationship or her previous boyfriend was an asshole and she put up with him. i think the guy believes it to be a reflection of your self-worth or self-esteem, whether it actually is or not and they feel that somehow entitles them to treat you in the same manner.

i've never been that girl but i know i wasn't valuing my own self-worth when i was with jc and when i tell any guy the story of that relationship, it seems they take on the same attitude--meaning they also feel like they can be an asshole and get away with it. and i kind of know that's how they'll react when i tell them the story so question is: why do i tell them?

i'm not sure if i'm testing them or if i tell them because i want them to treat me the same way so i can stop liking them and avoid attachment. kind of like self-sabotage only NOT because i wouldn't be losing anything if the guy was to treat me like that anyhow.