it's hard for me to see the genuineness in extroverted people who have an easy time making friends. to me, they're just like obese people at an all you can eat buffet; its more about quantity than quality. I’m not saying that they don't make good friends, I’m just saying that they don't seem to have as high of standards for their friends as most introverted people who may have a harder time making friends. generally, i haven't had too hard a time making friends although I’ve been introverted and I’ve always seemed to attract extroverted friends. i noticed that i ussually appear to be a closed and reserved person from an outsiders perspective and that is why its harder for people to approach me; it's not something i go out of my way to do but its just part of my character. when people do make an effort to be friendly toward me, i welcome it with arms wide open because i realize that they are just nice people who seem to be drawn to me for some reason. if theres no real connection as a friend, i just take the relationship for what it is with no hopes of a long term friendship because i never force things; if its right, it will just happen. when i am tossed into a socializing atmosphere, the connections and conversations just don't appear real/substantial to me. for example, when i went to orientation for school, the first thing people did was introduce themselves and try to buddy up with strangers they'd never met. for all these people know, these strangers could be rapists or drug addicts; or even worse, they could be really boring, lack depth, and have absolutely nothing in common. When i pick and choose friends, it is after i spend a safe amount of time observing them to see what good qualities they can bring to the table. it usually doesn't work out that way for me though; most of the friends I have now approached me or we became close through important life experiences. i never approach perspective friends, i just wait for fate to take its course. i know that the wiser ones will end up coming to me because they'll see something in me that others won't (and the people that don't see it are the ones i want to avoid anyway).